“If I could do anything for do-gooders, it would be to strip away that warm fuzzy veneer and expose the fierce, radical, revolutionary force within.
We are not sweet, not soft, not precious. Our hearts are audacious and wildly free and often dare to stand bitterly cold and alone at the far edges of what is normal or acceptable or desirable.
We are not naive. It's not that we aren't smart or strong enough to see the world as it is. We are fiercely determined to create the world that could be. And before it even exists, we have to go live there. In the beautiful but lonely Siberia of possibilities not yet realized.
The climate has made us fearless and formidable. Our wide-open hearts are not a weakness. We love the world with ferocity, intensity and raw, unrestrained humanity. Our love is not a weakness - it is power.”
~ Stacey Monk
Wow! I thought and then, Yes....yes! I get this. I know this. I’ve always known it on some intuitive level but would never have known how to begin to articulate it. I am thankful that Stacey has, and so powerfully.
This past week I have had experiences with two different people whose perceptions of me represented both sides of the coin. And having these words fresh in my mind helped me to deal with being seen as weak and powerless and easily used by one and enjoy the privilege of being truly seen and appreciated for who I am by the other.
A young woman I helped a few years ago contacted me to let me that she had nominated me for a homewares gift hamper as a thank you for ‘a random act of kindness’. She wanted me to read her letter, so that even if I didn’t win I’d know the extent of the impact my kindness had had on her life and how much she appreciated me and saw me as a strong and inspirational role model. It was all the gift I needed.
I was so touched and humbled by her words but also so grateful for being seen for who I have come to believe myself to be. As Stacey says, it can be lonely in Siberia. And sometimes I wonder if it’s all worth it. It is. How can it not be.
Being true to what you value, whatever that may be and sharing it with the world, whether it is ever recognised or not, is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. Because at the end of the day, you'll know that you have lived in accordance with your heart, and that is all that matters.